Still, not all the times we get it right..nor PERFECT! Same methods we learned with our 1st born might not be applicable on our 2nd or even 3rd child!!!
Each kid is unique (we learn that the hard way) Each child has his/ her own personality, character, and flaws!!
But, they are all united in 1 thing....they are kids who do kids stuff (part of their job being kids) and that might includes HITTING other KIDS!!!
BUT THAT DOESN'T GIVE THE RIGHT TO ANY PERSON ESPECIALLY TO ANOTHER "MOM" TO HIT MY CHILD!!! NO ONE ELSE HAS THE RIGHT TO DISCIPLINE MY KIDS BUT ME...EVEN IF THEY HIT YOUR KIDS YOU BRING IT UP TO ME.....THEIR MOM!!!
However, if she felt uneasy about YOU she will not approach and might even get physical no matter how nice you tried to be with her!!
Sometimes I scold her for acting this way and other times I keep telling myself I don't to want break her..that's who she is!!!
So, part of their super active and very energetic character my kids sometimes tend to play on the rough side!! At first I was taken back by this behavior in playing and often scolded and punished them...till I started noticing lots of other kids playing in the same manner!!
I then realized my kids are not different, they are just being KIDS!!
Now, for all those who know me by now, I'm a very possessive and protective person!! That is I don't have a helped or anyone else but ME or my Hubby to supervise our own kids...Even in my own EVENTS I never sit down, chit chat, or mingle a lot with my friends because I am too busy running after my kids, keeping in eye, monitoring and supervising them!!!
However, 2 kids can sometimes be a handful for parents, add up if they are active and have a mind of their own!!! Recently, we were out in an outing, in which my little girl was playing inside an inflatable & I had to leave her for 1 Minute were I was seating my eldest for his snack time...I saw her coming down as she was joining us but than she disappeared on me!! I thought she went to play in the other inflatable so the whole thing took just 1 min before I realized she's still playing in the 1st one!!
By the time I reached her I heard parents screaming who's that KID's parents, and by the time I realized they are actually talking about MINE, I saw the back of another MOM who jumped in to take off her own child and who DID OR WAS PLANNING TO HIT MINE!!!
I screamed to HER to STOP and to immediately back off from my child!!!
She took her kid out and started mumbling that mine hit her and she deserved to be HIT BACK!!! I was SHOCKED!!
ADD UP the other parents were defending that MOM for hitting mine!! Saying my daughter was hitting their kids left and right!!
In some other circumstances I would have grabbed my little one and even slapped her myself for such a bad / rude / impolite behavior!!
But their words, their muttering, their reaction, their attitude made me just HUG HER (even though I was really MAD & SAD from her Behavior...)
YET, my other MOMMY trait smiled secretly... I was happy she taught the little ones a lesson I myself couldn't teach their mums...
Don't GET ME wrong!!
I've read when you see kids fighting and hitting you let them be so they "TO HANDLE THEIR OWN FIGHTS WHEN THEY GROW UP AND NOT RELY ON THEIR PARENTS TO FIGHT IT FOR THEM"...
I've also read if you saw your own CHILD have HIT another bad or hard to pull them off each other..
- YOU CHECK THE INJURED CHILD 1st....
- YOU MAKE SURE HE / SHE are okay...
- YOU ATTEND TO THEM in case they are NOT...
- YOU SEEK THEIR PARENTS.....
then you take YOUR CHILD on the SIDE...
- YOU EXPLAIN WHAT HE/SHE was very BAD
- YOU MAKE YOUR OWN APOLOGIZE to the other HURT CHILD
- AGAIN YOU EXPLAIN to YOURs what they did was WRONG and not ACCEPTABLE
- YOU ALSO TRY TO UNDERSTAND what actually TRIGGERED the FIGHT so you can AVOID or PREVENT it!!
Please feel free to CORRECT ME if I AM WRONG!!
That afternoon I remained in-DOUBT of myself, questioning If I should have Slapped that MOM? or made a BIG scene of what SHE DID? Was I fair to my little one for remaining CALM?
All in all...I'm still MAD at that MOM and the other parents for their attitude....
and I am not SORRY my child have HIT YOURS...
I would have been if things were handled differently....
But because of your ACTIONS, I AM NOT!!