 | First, let me say that yes Co-sleeping is not for everyone... I am not a doctor nor do I have any expertise in pediatrics or healthcare... I can however, share with you all the medical articles I've read on Pros & Cons of co-sleeping!! I'm a firm believer that the decisions each parent makes on this subject is their business!! |
However, I can only share my own experience and what worked for me!!
It all started with my eldest!! I quit my job and decided to be a stay-at-home MUM and synchronized my life to his own needs, sleep habits/ patters, etc!! At First, I moved to his room and slept over for the 1st 6 month of his life, while he was sleeping in his baby cot (either placed in his big baby bed and then gradually near me)!!
one of the biggest reasons i loved having my baby in the bed with me so much was because i nursed him for 18 month so it was just logistically easier to have him right there, as opposed to waking up and going into his room when he needed to be fed every three hours. At that point, I was getting more tired, sleepy and lazy!! So I moved back to my own bedroom and bed, and yes You guessed it!!
My SON joined US!!
We weren't as persistent and stubborn as him, I ADMIT...we never went through with returning him to his own bed whenever he woke up to nurse at night...it was so much easier to drift back to sleep!
AND then we started enjoying having him so peacefully and sound-fully sleeping between US!! He looked so happy, so relaxed, and so safe and warm!!
This feeling was mutual between my husband and I....which led us to co-sleeping (as we both agreed on it, and we had no issues with the idea...at least not until NOW...)
BUT, if any of the parents is against the idea, then co-sleeping is NOT for YOU!!!
one of the biggest reasons i loved having my baby in the bed with me so much was because i nursed him for 18 month so it was just logistically easier to have him right there, as opposed to waking up and going into his room when he needed to be fed every three hours. At that point, I was getting more tired, sleepy and lazy!! So I moved back to my own bedroom and bed, and yes You guessed it!!
My SON joined US!!
We weren't as persistent and stubborn as him, I ADMIT...we never went through with returning him to his own bed whenever he woke up to nurse at night...it was so much easier to drift back to sleep!
AND then we started enjoying having him so peacefully and sound-fully sleeping between US!! He looked so happy, so relaxed, and so safe and warm!!
This feeling was mutual between my husband and I....which led us to co-sleeping (as we both agreed on it, and we had no issues with the idea...at least not until NOW...)
BUT, if any of the parents is against the idea, then co-sleeping is NOT for YOU!!!
AT 18 month I weaned my son as I was already 3 month pregnant with my little baby... yet he continued to sleep with us for comfort and security till he turned 2 years...then we shifted him to his own big bed as baby #2 was weeks away from arriving!!
I hate to say that he wasn't ready, and some of his character changed a lot after that transition!! Of-course, baby #2 started co-sleeping with me...and although we tried to be very careful from not doing same mistake as we did with our eldest (for we got extremely judged, scolded, and had lots of looks from other non co-sleeping parents that at some point we felt we shouldn't have went through with co-sleeping..)
Here...I quote from another co-sleeping Mama Blogger..."one of the most important reasons why bed-sharing occurs, and the reason why simple declarations against it will not eradicate it, is because sleeping next to one’s baby is biologically appropriate… this is particularly so when bed-sharing is associated with breast feeding…when done safely, mother-infant co-sleeping saves infants lives and contributes to infant and maternal health and well-being…"
With that said, added up to our smoochy tender character got the best of us, and even though this time baby's bed was right next to me, yet it was just soo much easier to let her sleep while nursing then to actually lift myself up and put her back in her bed!!
And so days, then weeks, then month passed by while we co-slept and of course our eldest joined us through it all (we couldn't say NO...else we would be unfair for secluding HIM out of our BED while his baby sister is enjoying our warmth, hugs, endless kisses, and security..)
And without feeling it OUR BED became THEIR BED!!!
YUP, as they start getting older and bigger they started demanding MORE SPACE!!
I hate to say that he wasn't ready, and some of his character changed a lot after that transition!! Of-course, baby #2 started co-sleeping with me...and although we tried to be very careful from not doing same mistake as we did with our eldest (for we got extremely judged, scolded, and had lots of looks from other non co-sleeping parents that at some point we felt we shouldn't have went through with co-sleeping..)
Here...I quote from another co-sleeping Mama Blogger..."one of the most important reasons why bed-sharing occurs, and the reason why simple declarations against it will not eradicate it, is because sleeping next to one’s baby is biologically appropriate… this is particularly so when bed-sharing is associated with breast feeding…when done safely, mother-infant co-sleeping saves infants lives and contributes to infant and maternal health and well-being…"
With that said, added up to our smoochy tender character got the best of us, and even though this time baby's bed was right next to me, yet it was just soo much easier to let her sleep while nursing then to actually lift myself up and put her back in her bed!!
And so days, then weeks, then month passed by while we co-slept and of course our eldest joined us through it all (we couldn't say NO...else we would be unfair for secluding HIM out of our BED while his baby sister is enjoying our warmth, hugs, endless kisses, and security..)
And without feeling it OUR BED became THEIR BED!!!
YUP, as they start getting older and bigger they started demanding MORE SPACE!!
There's NO right or wrong way in parenting....As parents, and sole responsible of your children's best interest, and health..
only YOU decide what is suitable and appropriate for ALL of you as a FAMILY....
I'm positively sure that just as we weaned from breastfeeding, pacifier, and bottles.... soon and very soon... they will grow up...they will demand being fully independent!! You will never get to enjoy this amazing feeling you get while holding them all night, listening to their soft breathing, and feeling them right next to you!!
YET..I hate to say that recently our KING SIZE BED got too small to fit all 4 of US and many night poor hubby ends sleeping out on the sofa :(
(Between both of US..he's getting so much of uninterrupted sleep, kicking, and never ending night demands...)
only YOU decide what is suitable and appropriate for ALL of you as a FAMILY....
I'm positively sure that just as we weaned from breastfeeding, pacifier, and bottles.... soon and very soon... they will grow up...they will demand being fully independent!! You will never get to enjoy this amazing feeling you get while holding them all night, listening to their soft breathing, and feeling them right next to you!!
YET..I hate to say that recently our KING SIZE BED got too small to fit all 4 of US and many night poor hubby ends sleeping out on the sofa :(
(Between both of US..he's getting so much of uninterrupted sleep, kicking, and never ending night demands...)
What do you think? Would you try co-sleeping, or would you prefer separate spaces? Perhaps you have a family bed already? I’d love to hear…
If you’re interested in co-sleeping, here are some interesting facts
"Children who cosleep are generally more independent and secure, develop close and lasting bonds to their families, and report more happiness and general life satisfaction than children who sleep alone. There are many reasons that sharing sleep with your children is healthy and beneficial even after they’ve started walking!!"
However if you're still not sure of its benefits then here's some tidbits from articles on Co-sleeping:
If you’re interested in co-sleeping, here are some interesting facts
"Children who cosleep are generally more independent and secure, develop close and lasting bonds to their families, and report more happiness and general life satisfaction than children who sleep alone. There are many reasons that sharing sleep with your children is healthy and beneficial even after they’ve started walking!!"
However if you're still not sure of its benefits then here's some tidbits from articles on Co-sleeping:
